Thursday Thoughts

 Thursday Thoughts

June 10, 2021

Waking up this morning I came across a memory of a quote that stated:

“We grow in love, no falling in love. Love is the action, choice, and decision on how we treat someone. Love is about the actions/steps that we take to show a person our love for them.”

I can’t help but recognize the honesty of those words. Do I think that we can’t fall in love? No, someone may truly sweep you off your feet! However, it’s what we do to sustain those feelings that make or break us. So many of us are looking for love, but would we know if we already had it? Have we ever given up due to our own selfish reasons or boundaries? Or honestly were we not emotionally secure, mature, or available enough to recognize it? We’re all on the search for this spark or those perfect moments that define when and how we fell in love. But, is there really a spark in the moment, butterflies in your belly? If so, what happens after that moment, how do you sustain and maintain those feelings daily? What happens when you find that spark with someone else? Do you value that person any less? Does your love for them or their love for you then become irrelevant? 

Love is absolutely a feeling, but it’s also a choice, a conscious decision. I think love will always take effort, effort to sustain what you need to be loved. Love languages are real. Oftentimes,  we don’t realize that we’re speaking a foriegn language to someone, but we can guarantee and make it a point to acknowledge their foreign speaking to us. What may be how we show love, may not be how the other receives it. We should expect to know how to give and receive. We should learn to love who and how they are, just as we expect the same. 

So many of us can point the finger, but can’t name three things that we’ve done to fill their love tank properly. (singing “What have you done for me lately?!”) 

“One of the greatest things we can do for someone you love, is to love yourself.” Individually we are flawed. Be able to come to the table whole and wholeheartedly. Because you know you're not perfect and neither are they, but your heart is willing to be in it with them to make a good thing GREAT. The choice of choosing them over anyone.

To be honest, we all want to be chosen, we all want to be THE ONE. So it’s imperative to be able to choose to make the choice and put forth the effort to love.

- With love, AW

Press Play: GOOD THING by Bellah